Voices in our mind
About the subconcious mind, psychology, the power of words, the influence of our words towards others.
Okay, I'm no psychologist and by no means I'm intending to act like one. I've just experienced a lot by myself, did some reading and decided to write this blog post. Just a small disclaimer before we dig into the matter.
What is our subconcious mind? It's the sponge that absorbs everything we hear and see. For example someone is telling you a chair is called a spoon. If they continuously say "spoon" when they point at a chair you'll start believing them. Now, it might sound like the most stupid thing ever because you know a chair is a chair... but why do you? Because when you were a little kid, people pointed at a chair and said "chair". See, it's that easy to absorb information.
Most of the times it's a great tool we have, we can just absorb info and use it in daily life, but - if you read my instagram post - you know there can also be bad things about it, mostly when people are negative towards you. For example, if a pupil constantly hears "you're stupid", they will believe it as much as a chair is called a chair... or a spoon.
I am certain you can remember things from your own life as well: when people said you were too silly, stupid, weak, dumb, tall, fat, pale, dorky,... And it gave you a lot of negative feelings, even doubt.
At that moment our brain feels bamboozled, it thinks: "am I really silly/ stupid/ etc.?" If you have a solid or little self-confidence you will at least have your doubts about these words or you will feel like something doesn't feel right. But, as adult who's reading this, you can already imagine what the damage can be on a child who has no self-confidence. I'm speaking about children now because we have these negative experiences the first time in our childhood. This doesn't mean we cannot experience them when we're adult or that - when we're adults - we can cope fluently with it. Even when you have a child or adult who's very confident about themself, they can still feel a certain doubt or feel uncomfortable with those words: "is there a truth in them?"
The past year(s) you can see the positive use of the subconcious mind on IG a lot with all these IG Reels in which people share their positive affirmations "I am smart, I am rich, I am divine, etc." This is the part we need to encourage: the positive use of the subconcious mind. How? By telling children and adults (teenagers included obviously) that they have good qualities. I have noticed it in my own life, when using affirmations I usually have a peaceful and productive day, my self-confidence is high enough to battle myself through the day and they can (almost) kick every task to me, I'll handle it. Also, when I was a teacher in high-school, I noticed the positive effects of telling them how good they are in something. It strenghtens the belief in their brain and so the "positive affirmation" becomes more true to them. Repetition is key!
Also the journaling that has became more popular strengthens these positive beliefs about the self. I highly recommend you to journal, because reflecting on how the day was or writing down what you want to achieve is beneficial to positive beliefs.
A metaphor I really like to use is working out: you can feel your muscles but maybe doubt about it sometimes, if you repetitively work out, you will get bigger muscles. If someone tells you, after many, intensive trainings, you have no big muscles, you won't believe them because it's obvious for you they are there.
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With much love